Let’s talk about the SHAME GAME, particularly as it relates to selling and making money.
As you know by now, I’m all for serving generously. Today I wanted to focus on how to sell to high achieving women, shame-free.
Making money by sharing your incredible gifts with the world, shame-free, is such an important topic for women, and it’s something that I feel so driven to discuss so that women can pass it on to their sisters, girlfriends, daughters, and nieces. I’m tired of brilliant women feeling like they don’t deserve to make truckloads of money while serving the world with their life-changing gifts.
In this popular video, I share:
Why it’s vital that you drop the shame.
The key to serving more clients and making a significant impact.
How the stigma connected to women making shit loads of money is unconsciously affecting your bottom line.
Where you need to shift the focus to finally release the shame that’s been keeping you stuck.
How you can contribute to the process of women making money becoming less of a dirty phrase.
I end the video by giving you a super juicy exercise, which can become a ritual to allow you to liberate yourself so that you begin to speak your truth in an assertive but loving way, and sell your ass off at the same time!
Here are some of my musings and observations that I thought I would share with you, the gorgeous, magical and conscious entrepreneur who is ready to build her business from a place of feminine nourishment, financial wellbeing and divine service.
I also want to talk about making money online. There are many in the online space with false promises, lies and get-rich-quick schemes that don’t last the distance, but I want you to know that if you go for your dreams with ethics and integrity, you can prosper!
It’s been a brilliant and often exhausting year managing the accelerated growth of our company, partnering up with my husband in business and raising a 3-year-old rascal! We launched our inaugural CEO DIVA Business School one-year immersion program (without a website mind you) and filled it with a $10K ad spend — which was a huge win all around!
I created a spiritual and business framework birthed from a deep desire to serve and contribute with love, divinity and honesty. It was a seed of an idea that I planted one day and sketched out on butcher’s paper, and five months later we had a multi-six-figure business. I’m proud to say that we’ve done and continue to do everything we can to support our clients with every fibre of our being! Love and passion have been the bedrock of all our work.
Next, we launched our first group program High-End Empire — aka the GUCCI of online business programs — and created something revolutionary. We provided a level of ‘insane value’ that made our clients feel deeply supported and guided 24/7 and not like they were in a group program at all! Woo hoo! I wasn’t sure how we were going to manage it, but we did!
All in all, I’m deeply grateful for all those who’ve supported us and joined us on this divine journey. My clients are incredible and deeply inspiring women and I stand in awe of them every day — of their work, deep courage, and power. What you put out, you get back. Please remember that.
I replaced my yearly income and made it my monthly income, launching something dear to my heart from place of deep love and service. I believe that’s something to celebrate.
Ok, so let’s get started… here are 30 lessons for the unstoppable CEO! Grab a wine or a green juice and enjoy the ride.
It’s more important to be true to yourself than to be liked.
Making money isn’t hard. It’s the up leveling, emotional healing journey that’s the biggest job ever and the best investment you will ever make. Once you have the mindset and the emotional resonance making money becomes about a 1000 times easier. It’s exactly what I teach and preach and it’s what I practice each and every day.
I am disciplined as FUCK. This is a trait that’s quite rare. I just called to thank both of my immigrant parents for my backbone. It’s served me very well.
Get a team before you think you need one.
Hold your prices. It serves EVERYONE.
I lead with my heart. Not everyone does. That’s OK. Choose your tribe, customers, friends, and team wisely.
Trust your gut. We walked away from a $20K consultant after working with her for 6 weeks. She wasn’t bad. She just wasn’t for us. Our needs and strategic insight outgrew the alliance. It’s the best thing we ever did. Another example of trusting your gut 100%: I used to have my own clothing line in NYC. A lawyer stole my corporate kit and then issued 50% of the stock without my permission. I never felt good about him. So here’s what I’ve learned: trust your gut instinct every time. If something or someone doesn’t feel right to you, move on fast. The only person that is irreplaceable in your business is you.
Generosity is potent magic but over giving provides space for people not to fully learn and show up for themselves. It’s a fine line so be generous but understand your boundaries and how to truly give to allow your clients and team to take full responsibility for themselves. It’s the only way we all truly grow and expand. Leading me to the next lesson…
Boundaries and integrity work in brilliant harmony. They’re both essential.
I love motherhood. I loathe domesticity. And that’s okay. I now have a cleaner, cook, and personal assistant. Life is good with more women helping in my household.
I am responsible for myself not others. Except my child.
Women can find generosity hard to receive because it’s foreign to so many of us. It’s time to change that. We deserve limitless abundance, love and respect — NOT crumbs.
Working hard is not destructive when you know how to take care for yourself. Do that EVERY SINGLE DAY. You are your number one asset.
Money can be one of the most healing tools on the planet.
Money will never give you worth, but it will give you the freedom to expand your business and impact and deliver an incredible, life-changing service. For heart-aligned conscious entrepreneurs it allows you to do more and that’s truly exquisite.
If you haven’t signed up for my FREE video program, Sacred Money Miracle, I invite you to ditch the hustle, embrace your heart and sell high-end with your soul, spirit and sanity intact in 8 short days. Download it here.
What triggers you is what trips you up. Learn from it. See it for the message it is. Otherwise, you’ll stay stuck in a cycle of repetition and inevitable struggle. If you want to slay in business and life, you have to give up the drama, my friend.
Your voice and message are your GOLDMINE, not the size of your list. You can make a shit load of money and have an epic heart-aligned business with a small list, as long as you’re not selling low cost products! Hello people! You don’t need to sell high volume if you sell high end. That can come later once you can pay your bills with ease or you have another source of income.
Please plan your business and financial wellbeing from a place of insight. Get support and guidance from an experienced team not from someone with just a title. It will save you years of pain. Make sure you choose someone who has truly gone before you. Someone who has real business experience. Ask questions. Tune in. Check testimonials. Get referrals. Choose your team wisely. Do not go it alone. Do not observe others and expect stellar results without adequate training. If you’re not making money in your business, there’s a reason. Find out why and create a new plan. Never give up. Keep learning. Keep going. If you want to speak to my team about how we can help you to significantly grow your business, book in here.
Building a multi-six-figure, heart-aligned business in one year requires these traits: vision, courage, divine connection, an expansive rich diva mindset, discipline, awareness, ethics, hard work, owning your word, love, strategy that works, paid traffic, visibility, patience, emotional IQ, deep soul healing, ample self-care, heaps of sleep and going the extra mile EVERY SINGLE DAY.
Your energy, vision and self-belief are everything. The rest follows your alignment. Remember that. You can’t build or keep an empire on a weak foundation. Less hustle and more aligned energy is my motto, my friend.
Working with your husband is a divine blessing when you both work in your zone of genius and delegate the rest. Make sure you have plenty of amorous intimate playtime or you run the risk of dissolving the relationship.
Being able to communicate with love, honesty and strength is the golden key to thriving relationships, as long as each party has the awareness to partake in this level of interaction. Working with clients and my team at this level of honesty within a B.S. FREE space and with a say-it-like-it-is clear and loving attitude, lights my fire and creates epic divine connection. Talk about heart swell! This is a whole other ball game of mature, loving and self-responsible conversation. I’m sooo freakin’ into it! There’s no offense taken or fear based reaction, only love and direct and open sharing. Thank you to all those who’ve been part of this journey. You’ve shown me the level of communication that I desire in my life and business.
If you’re stressed, it’s simply a message to course correct. Tune in, re-assess, rewire and reset your reality by letting go of what is no longer serving you or your business. When you’re in the middle of a huge shift, this may be a daily release ritual to ensure that you up level with GRACE. Purge to emerge. See the experience with trust and excitement not resentment and fear. Open up to it and you’ll up level a lot faster and with greater ease.
You are the creatrix of your life. If you don’t like something, change it or accept it. You can’t always change things, but you can always change how you respond to, and feel about, it and that’s potent shizz!
Every single thing I’ve feared doing, but knew I had to do to rise up and serve, has inspired enormous growth spiritually, emotionally and financially. My fears have transformed into my greatest achievements. For example, I used to fear teaching in large groups and now it’s what I love the most and it’s where I serve best! I even had a mild panic attack and severely twisted my ankle two days before I did my first ever webinar and then went on to sell over $160K and had a divine ball doing it, as I connected with incredible women from around the world. Now that’s divine liberation.
I love nothing more than seeing other women step into their power to create lucrative brands that not only change their own lives but also change the world. The Dalai Lama said, ‘The western woman will change the world’. I fully agree with this statement. In fact we are already doing it. On the flip side, I see a lot of struggle. We need more sisters to rise into power to create the shifts we need globally. As each woman rises, we light a flame in another. Women are born leaders. You just have to follow your vision and courage. I’m 100% committed to playing a huge part in supporting and guiding women to rise!
When you heal your inner child, what someone does or says will literally have no effect on you unless you decide to allow it to do so — which you won’t because you’ll be too busy living your delicious life!
With discipline and love, you can do whatever the FRIG you want. Don’t allow anyone tell you that you can’t. And just get busy doing it. Surround yourself with those that are here to lift you up. See it done.
Hard work is not enough. You must have a business that you can monetize effectively or you will burn yourself out. Make sure the strategy works. Don’t run around doing, doing, doing without learning how to market, sell and make money. I see this all the time. It’s madness.
Having financial flow and serving amazing women around the world where I get to share my heart, power and love is incredible but what has made me the happiest this year is clearing the pain from my past to allow myself to live with more grace, courage and peace. That’s the bomb dot com. Without clearing past pain, we continue to struggle. Without undertaking that process of healing and clearing, all the money in the world doesn’t bring you fulfillment. And it’s why all my work starts by focusing on personal healing, energy alignment and mindset. See point #2.
Darling woman, STOP PRETENDING TO BE NORMAL IF YOU WANT A DIVINE BUSINESS.
You are a woman birthed from the divine. You’re SACRED.
This is an important realisation in birthing the most beautiful, booming and heart-aligned business…
Really tune inwards.
You know what you want to do.
The key to creating a purpose-based business is owning your DESIRE.
Hold it so dear to you, with so much love, that it can’t be stopped from growing, growing and growing. Hold yourself, your vision and your transformational work sacred as you commit to serving at a deeper level. This is the magic that brings in new business with GRACE.
Don’t question your path. Start doing it. That will set you free. The path is never shown to you while you stand in doubt. That’s when we move off course. Stay aligned.
I often tell my clients, ‘You‘re not normal. You’re a visionary. Stop pretending to be normal. That shade of grey never suited you and never will.’
It’s the trying to fit in and disowning our vision that makes us physically, financially and spiritually sick.
Want to break free?
Start anywhere. Begin. If you need support, get it. We don’t do anything alone. Build your femme squad.
Surround yourself with sistas who will love you into greatness. But the excuses have got to go. Move. Do the work, and your life and your business will completely transform. Thousands of clients are waiting for you to shine so that you can serve at a deeper level. They need you.
Love & Divine Riches,
A little about Ingrid…….
Featured in InStyle, Cosmo, Glamour, Huffington Post, Ingrid Arna is a leading business strategist with over 20 years experience in branding, capital raising, TV development, sales and advertising. Ingrid guides visionary entrepreneurs into conscious wealth and global impact, without sacrificing their soul. She’s the founder of High-End Empire, the leading online signature program known for producing epic business results and spiritual growth at light speed.
The only New Year’s Resolution she’s been able to stick to since becoming a mother has been to quadruple her prices and give up her thongs for granny pants. She’s never been happier or richer!
• How to break free from scarcity
• How to identify if you’re hoarding and holding on to money
• How holding on to money can stop the flow and keep you trapped, feeling unwell and fearful, and in a place of struggle
• The simple and powerful process to attract more clients over the holidays
• How to open yourself up to a deeper level of receiving and abundance.
I’ve recently realized that I’ve always been very good at manifestation. I’ve created a number of businesses, worked in a variety of industries in Australia and NYC and was the type of girl who had boyfriends who would whisk her away on a Jet to remote islands when I was 18 and 19 years old. Friends and family have always asked me how I made my dreams a reality. I haven’t always dated rich boyfriends but I’ve always attracted amazing people and incredible opportunities.
An important aspect to manifesting is not holding onto stuff with fear of not receiving more. I’ve never felt the need to hold onto things. Money and wealth are not the most important things for me. This is an extension of how I behave and show up in my life. To give, to pass things on and to allow abundance to flow into my life.
I see many women hoarding money like they have a feeling of absolute scarcity. When you do that not only does it create a cycle of financial struggle and poverty, it can also creates sickness, stagnation and ‘stuckness’. Life can begin to treat you in the same way when you exhibit that type of behavior because you’re putting out a very clear message to the universe that there isn’t enough to go around. If I have a beautiful handbag, I use it. I also give away possessions I don’t use. This may not be for everybody, but this is what feels right for me. For example, yesterday my sister and I went to see my 96-year-old grandmother and aunt. I was wearing a beautiful, expensive pearl necklace that my sister had given to me. But it wasn’t really my style and I knew I wouldn’t wear it often. So I wanted to give it to my aunt, who is also my godmother. At first my sister questioned why I would do that. I explained that it felt like I was holding onto something that I wouldn’t get as much joy out of as I know my aunt would. So with my sister’s permission, we co-gave it to our aunt who was delighted.
Even during periods where I didn’t have a lot of capital, I still spent my money on things that made me feel really beautiful and lush. I’m living in the energy, in the vortex of that which I wish to receive. So when I started making a lot more money selling high end, I didn’t just take all of that money and put it into my business. Of course that’s part of it, but part of it is having an environment that makes me feel really rich. We can cultivate that within our own frequency without buying things, of course, but for me it’s like passing on the energy—creating the never-ending flow of abundance. When I spend money, I also set a very clear intention that I will receive that money back 10 or 100 fold. That way my vibration is founded on the understanding, the knowing, that there’s always more coming. Whenever I spend money, whether by investing in my business, buying something nice for my family or self, giving gifts to clients and friends, I do it with so much joy and excitement knowing that the person will receive a divine gift from my heart. They’re going to know that I deeply care and that I’m thinking of them. By doing this, I also then magnetize more abundance in my life.
I’ve also witnessed women restricting themselves by not investing in programs, or coaches, or even working with me. Sometimes they’ll say things like, I don’t have the money. That is a belief—a mindset—that keeps people incredibly stuck. Every woman who has joined one of my programs has changed her life in some way on a deeply spiritual, soulful, energetic level. So you have to really be mindful of where your frequency is at and what future you’re setting up for yourself. When you have that sense of hoarding and not enoughness, it shuts the flow down.
This is what investing in my business looks like for me right now. I have another launch of High-End Empire coming up, and I’m looking at how I can spend money to ensure that I’m putting my message out there. My goal is to help more people, so my focus is on spreading the word. I’m always looking at how my money is going to multiply. How my love and sharing and care is going to multiple. Many of my clients in my higher end CEO Diva program regularly say things like, oh my gosh, you’re so generous, or oh my gosh, you show up so much, or oh my gosh, the way that you give is ridiculous. I don’t feel that at all because giving doesn’t exist in a vacuum. I receive so much love back from my clients.
Of course, building a business at that level requires a lot of support and a team, and I also take incredibly good care of myself. It doesn’t mean I don’t get tired. I have a masseuse that comes to my house, I have acupuncture weekly, and I’m committed to giving. It fills my heart with so much expansion, and my business keeps multiplying. A couple of months ago I was working at a deep level on High-End Empire, and I told my husband Chris that I really wanted to buy an infrared sauna. I dropped $3,000. Bang. That has been one of the best investments I could have made. So I’m constantly investing and spending money. I could have kept that $3,000 for more Facebook ads or put it back into my business in another way. But it’s a final line: you want to put capital in your business obviously, but who’s to say that using that money for Facebook ads rather than buying the sauna would have been a better investment for me? That infrared sauna multiplies my abundance and allows me to take really good care of myself so that I can show up more for my clients. All these things really help me to feel lush and have allowed me to expand my mind around what I can create.
So let’s talk about manifesting clients while you’re on holiday. Be mindful around what you’re putting out there. I tune into the type of energy that I want to have with the people I work with. I don’t do many sales calls anymore, but when someone whose energy I really feel and like approaches me, I go with it. I get on a call, feel their energy, and make a decision after we’ve had a chance to connect. I want to work with women who I feel can benefit from my help and I want to see them rock it. I really believe that if you want to make $5K, $10K over the holidays you can do that. If it’s not in alignment, that’s fine too, but if you do, then you need to put it out to the universe. Whether clients choose to work with me or not, it’s so beautiful to see that when we set those intentions, the universe always delivers. When you’re in alignment with what you desire, things happen so beautifully.
If you want to become a manifesting Queen over the next few weeks, take time to sit, meditate, connect, and deep dive into seeing and feeling the future that you want to create because that’s where the potent magic of manifesting lies. Let go of any doubt, negativity and feelings of scarcity.
My biggest, most potent mantra at the moment is I give and I receive. This mantra creates an endless flow.
When people become stuck in a scarcity mindset by thinking there are no clients or that it’s difficult to attract clients, they are sending out a vibration of scarcity, of lack. In reality, thousands of clients are waiting for you and what you offer — they just don’t know that you exist yet. We all need to make the decision to shine our lights brightly, get out of hiding and be strategic in our marketing. When you take deliberate action, you get results.
In terms of taking deliberate action in my business to ensure that the flow continues, I’ve been talking with my team about the need to be agile. What do I mean by this? Well, it means implementing ideas efficiently. As well as all the programs and resources we already have, I have other inspirations on money, mindset and alignment and emotional cures. I really want to release this content quickly. So as we come up with ideas, the team needs to be agile in their implementation. When things take too long, it feels stuck and blocks the flow of work.
By having a rock solid team around me, I’ve ensured that I have the support that I need to implement my ideas quickly. So I want to encourage you to gather the support you need to grow your business.
Spending money, making money and receiving money is such a beautiful thing. When I started making more money and I could buy more beautiful clothes that I needed for work, I had a slight panic attack. I had to check in with my husband who reminded me that there is always more money coming in. I wasn’t used to trusting in that, so I had to allow myself to spend that money and receive.
All that manifestation has come from making the decision to show up fully and serve. My vision for my business was just an idea that I manifested very quickly because I really tuned into that every day. It’s about more than just the money. It’s about the level of service you provide for your clients and doing the work that brings you to life.
One of the most amazing parts of working with clients is the flowing, beautiful, soul sister connection that’s created when working with the right person with the right vibration for you. Remember this is a two-way street. Expansion happens for both people involved. So be really mindful of whom you’re allowing into your space. It’s a beautiful energetic alignment when you choose to work with people.
After working with hundreds of clients over the years, one of the most valuable things I’ve learned is the understanding that things will come up that you have to go through—it’s a natural part of up leveling and an outcome of the process of your working together. You have to release. When you’re going through these emotions you don’t need to be ashamed of yourself. You need to allow yourself to go there—feel the emotions and release them.
Here’s a divine ritual for you:
Write down all your non-negotiables about who you want to work with, the clients you want to attract. Include that all through your copy and in your videos. This is your declaration to the world about the clients you want to attract. It’s a powerful action to take! Do it and see exactly that type of client come into your life.
Ready to pack your bags and join the journey to claim your High-End Empire?
‘I’ve made $18,500 over the past 3 weeks thanks to Ingrid’s Sacred Money Miracle program. Ingrid is a loving force of nature.’ – Marcia Bench
Have you ever wondered why some online business owners seem to get by so easily…how everything they touch seems to turn to gold with ease?
Well, I’ve recently been reflecting on how I managed to go from being an exhausted mum hustling to sell $150 sessions to selling out two programs and making $600K in 18 months.
It got me thinking about my upbringing.
It’s not that I had a magical childhood—there was a lot of drama and chaos in my formative years (I share more in the video). But it’s not a ‘victim’ story; in fact, I’m deeply grateful for my parents—both are amazing people. However, many of their beliefs around money have influenced mine and have continued to contribute to self-sabotaging behaviours and beliefs in me, despite a lot of success. That is, until I began to divinely and gently remove deep shame from my vibration for good!
In this video I share:
• How I moved past those pre-written scripts about money that weren’t mine and started to write my own scripts of self-love and care, which are the behaviours that I truly believe have helped me become incredibly successful while coming from a place of integrity and nourishment.
• How you can begin to release your own negative beliefs so you can create a new money story and life. This is the key to allowing yourself to infinitely receive and attract clients who are ready to invest in themselves and you.
I want to know…
Who would you be if you truly owned your brilliance? You have much to offer the world and your clients, and you need to fully own that deep within every cell of your being, divine woman.
Next, you have to take deliberate action and then let go of the how. You must allow faith, trust and your connection to your vision guide you forward, each day, step by step.
This will change your frequency, and your outcome will be to receive money (compensation for your divine work) guilt free, darling, as you break free from under earning forever.
So many people are waiting for you to show up. It’s time for you to embrace your calling. Watch the video to hear the full story and to discover how you can begin to make some serious money, guilt free.
It’s time for you to live a divine lush love serving at your highest without sacrifice!
‘Ingrid gave me the courage to put my deeply personal life story on my website today and two hours later I sold my first high-end program.’ – Susanne Grant
‘I sold a $10K package with ridiculous ease! Woo hoo! Ingrid is the real deal spiritual business sage!’ – Tina Hay
In my FREE program, I’m going to show you the exact steps I used to break free from scarcity and from hustling like a MOFO to become a rich, fierce and loving CEO Diva.
It’s time to stop under charging so you can play a bigger game from a place of deep nourishment and financial abundance.
You can grab your financial story by the cajones RIGHT NOW and break free from scarcity – for good.
It’s time to stop pushing, as you open to receiving with divinity, ease and grace.
From working diligently with endless passion to refueling diligently with endless passion is my recipe for being a rich divine lit up woman.
In this video, I discuss hard work, ease and working in alignment as you kick scattered fear based consciousness to the curb for good.
I also journey into how to heal and release family members who don’t support you as your rise into your inherent calling and wealth.
Plus, I offered a divine healing ritual at the end to bring you home to love. 🐼💋
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